So what is celibacy?

The definitions appear all seem to agree that celibacy is the absence of sexual intercourse. When taking into account the kind of person I am, I have decided to extend this definition to kissing and any other activities that preclude or are a part of sexual intercourse. The argument that to be celibate is to just abstain from sex, does in my opinion mean cutting out an activity but often not cutting out the other activities and emotions that are part of it. This would seem pointless and a tad trivial.

Another part of the definition often included the reasons of vow of celibacy for religions reasons. As a C of E worshipper i can say that this is not a motivator or a factor of my decision but i do hope that this year may encourage some reflection on the subject and also its connection with religion and God.

My next posts: Why i want to do this and my relationship history

Introduction- Jan 03.2010

Early into 2010,i came up with a New Year's resolution; to be celibate for a whole entire year either intentionally or unintentionally, depending on the chances that come my way.

You may ask why on earth i would want to do this, why i would i feel the need, is it just a publicity stunt is it to get attention?

I like to think it's none of these, instead i want to heal some of the parts of me which over the last 2 years may have been wounded, and i also want to discover the value of the non platonic,non physical relationships as well as understanding why people feel the need to enter into physical relationships.

Over a year of blogging i'm hoping that people who read this will get an insight to the way i understand realationships and encounters and the value of celibacy. I hope that nobody i know reads this, and seeing as i'm writing under a pseudonym, i doubt that they will. This gives me the chance to be completely honest, who knows; maybe everyone will learn or come to understand something.

Part of this blog will be blogged from the Sudan, I'm hoping that i'll get insights over there to contribute to this